Mentors

In the Dallas Seminary Daily Devotional for Oct. 24, 2003, Chuck Swindoll writes:
“There we sat, a cluster of six. A stubby orange candle burned at the center
of our table flickering eerie shadows across our faces. One spoke; five listened.
Every question was handled with such grace, such effortless ease. Each answer
was drawn from deep wells of wisdom, shaped by tough decisions and nurtured by
time. And pain. Mistakes and mistreatment. And honed by tests, risks, heartbreaks,
and failures. Decades in the same crucible had made his counsel invaluable.

“His age? Seventy-two. He had seen it all, weathered it all-all the flack
and delights of a flock. Outlasted all the fads and gimmicks of gullible and greedy
generations, known the ecstasy of seeing lives revolutionized, the agony of lives
ruined, and the monotony of lives unchanged. He had paid his dues-and had the
scars to prove it.

“There we sat for well over three hours hearing his stories, pondering his
principles, questioning his conclusions, and responding to his ideas. The evening
was punctuated with periodic outbursts of laughter followed by protracted periods
of quiet talk.

“As I participated, I was suddenly twenty-six years old again. A young seminarian
and pastoral intern existing in a no man’s land between a heart full of desire
and a head full of dreams. Long on theological theories but short on practical
experience. I had answers to questions no one was asking but a lack of understanding
on the things that really mattered. In momentary flashbacks, I saw myself in the
same room with this man thirty years earlier, drinking at the same well, soaking
up the same spirit. Thirty years ago he had been a model; now he had become a
mentor. Thoroughly human and absolutely authentic, he had emerged a well-worn
vessel of honor fit for the Master’s use. And I found myself profoundly grateful
that Ray Stedman’s shadow had crossed my life.

“As we said good-bye to Ray that evening, I walked a little slower. I thought
about the things he had taught me without directly instructing me, about the courage
he had given me without deliberately exhorting me. I wondered how it had happened.
I wondered why I had been so privileged. I found myself wanting to run back to
his car and tell him again how much I loved and admired him.

“But it was late. And after all I was a fifty-five-year-old man. A husband.
A father. A grandfather. A pastor. To some, a leader.
“But as I stood there alone in the cold night air, I suddenly realized what
I wanted to be when I grew up.
“A mentor knows how to stretch without insulting, affirm without flattering,
release without abandoning us.”

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